Dear Reader who is a Pre-Batterers,
(This is not meant as a replacement for psychotherapy! but as a thought that might be helpful for certain people at certain times who are already working in therapy.)
Here are some assumptions about batterers — people who have tendencies to hit people or animals (or yell at them or insult them, and the like) but who haven't done it yet.
1. There are degrees of battery (and assault and abuse) ranging from examples most people, except the most sensitive, wouldn't even recognize as battery to those that would horrify almost everyone.
2. We have all been battered (abused, assaulted) to some degree at some point in our lives and, almost certainly, on a daily basis, and these incidents often (usually) go unnoticed, even to the batterer and the battered.
3. We all have battered (abused, assaulted) to some degree at some point and, almost certainly, on a daily basis, and these incidents often (usually) go unnoticed, even to the batterer and the battered.
4. We all have the ability, the capability, the deep potential of battering (abusing, assaulting) at a much more severe level than the worst we have ever done.
5. (and this is my assumption and main point here) — If you are not aware of 4., the odds of you committing a higher level of battery than you would be comfortable with, that is, of you surprising yourself by an act of battery (assault, abuse) of which you thought you were incapable goes up significantly.
In other words, unconsciousness is a causal factor.